Assertiveness is something important in life. If you are not assertive, you are easy to manipulate and you miss a lot of chances in life.
If you take a course to improve your assertiveness, you will learn techniques to react appropriately in certain situations.
That may help, but as long as the cause is not removed, you will never be able to overcome your lack of assertiveness completely.
According to the insights of LTA Personal Development the cause of lack of assertiveness is to be found in subconscious patterns. Those patterns control a person’s behaviour. If somebody is very assertive, this person has free energies in his subconscious mind that bring about this quality.
Examples of patterns are:
‘you are unable to say that you don’t want to do it, so you just do it’
‘you are unable to refuse’
‘you are afraid that people might condemn you, so you do what they want you to do’
‘you are unable to defend yourself’
‘you let others take what belongs to you’
‘they drive you into a corner, you have no defence’
‘you are unable to say what you think, imagine they think differently and that they would laugh at you’
‘the way they do things is better, just follow their example’
Examples of energies are:
being sure, feeling sure, mean something to yourself and to other people
say what you think
influence others and convince them of your ideas
achieve what you want without harming anyone and while showing consideration for other people
the others show consideration for you, they listen to you
stand up for yourself
These patterns and energies are situated around a person. With the LTA method, about which you can find a lot of information on this website, the patterns are destroyed down to the basis and we release suppressed energies.
The result is that assertiveness becomes something self-evident and that no other efforts are required anymore to become assertive.
