Narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder can be remedied. According to Linda Evans, who has developed an energetic therapy called ‘LTA personal development’, a person suffering from narcissism is not responsible for this behaviour. A narcissistic person is bound to show the behaviour that is displayed, because he/she is forced into narcissism by subconscious programs or patterns. These patterns are present in the subconscious mind as from the day we are born.
About narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder a lot of information can be found on the Internet. Below we will describe just a few examples of patterns that may be present in the subconscious mind of a narcissistic person. Narcissism is caused by the presence of these patterns.
By means of LTA personal development these patterns are destroyed. Underneath these patterns, there is a normal, empathic personality. By means of the LTA method we can convert narcissism into self-assured and yet modest, loving, empathic behaviour.
Examples of patterns causing narcissism. The narcissistic person is ‘inside’ the pattern and only knows the reality that is imposed upon him by the pattern. He or she does not know any other reality.
‘To be occupied with oneself, to be interested in nobody, to be occupied with one’s own things and not to be able to pull away one’s attention from that, to be interested in nobody else than oneself.’
‘Attention is directed to oneself and only to oneself, finds it very difficult to direct his/her attention to another person, attention is glued to oneself, ‘so to speak’.’
‘To observe everything exclusively from 1 angle or point of view, that is his own selfish angle. To observe nothing at all from another angle. Not to be able to imagine or know another point of view than your own point of view. Everything and everyone is subordinate to that point of view. Not being able to understand or imagine whatsoever that another person may have another point of view. To think and act exclusively on the basis of one’s own point of view.’
‘Cannot understand another person, can only understand oneself, can only imagine an environment that he or she knows for himself/herself.’
‘Has no clue whatsoever of another person’s feelings or experiences, cannot imagine that something can be difficult for another person or that another person suffers, only understands his/her own environment. Cannot imagine that another person feels something or has his/her own perception of the environment or desires something. Can only think of his/her own satisfaction and another person is just a means to achieve that. Another person is some kind of utensil, so to speak.’
‘Not being able to listen when a conversation with several people is about another person, it must be about him or her, leaving the group when not all the attention is drawn to him/her.’
‘Everything is about you, you are the centre, you are the most important one’
‘You are God’
‘They must bend to your will’
‘You are the greatest, other people are nothing compared to your greatness’
‘Feeling of self-conceit, sense of superiority towards other people’
‘You are admirable, you are so special, you are so different than other people, you are so superior to them.’
‘What you do is so perfect, so good, no other person can just even dream about that, to achieve and create what you can.’
‘They must praise you, + a craving to hear admiring words. If the laudatory words are not spoken, being completely confused, thinking that you do not count. Then starting to argue and blaming the other person for all kinds of things. Such as: you do not love me, you do not even notice me. You do not want to do anything for me. Or else to withdraw, feeling hurt, and to pity yourself. Self-pity. Fantasies about how bad life really is for him/her, what he/she has to go through and how bad the other people really are.’
‘You must be beautiful, you must be the best, you must be in front, you must catch the eye, everybody should see you, wanting to outdo the others by making sure you have or be something that is better than the others’
‘Drawing attention to yourself in a group or during a conversation with several people. By wearing conspicuous clothes, or by saying striking things, by adopting a conspicuous attitude, leading the conversation (even when talking about matters where he/she knows nearly anything about)’
‘The whole world is about him or her, cannot imagine that another person could have another reason for living than to exist in function of him or her. Cannot imagine that another person would want something for himself, because in fact, everything and everybody exists in function of him or her. Can only think of his/her own needs and satisfaction.’
‘Display of power, showing off expensive things, expensive clothing …’
‘Showing off those things that another person does not have, just to outdo another person.’
Etc.
